I didn’t go to Bali with a checklist. I didn’t go with a packed itinerary or a long list of must-see spots. And because of that, Bali ended up changing the way I travel more than almost anywhere I’ve been.
Before Bali, I thought intentional travel meant planning well. After Bali, I realized it meant something else entirely: moving through a place with curiosity, presence, and trust in the experience itself.
Letting Movement Lead the Way
Some of my favorite days in Bali were the least structured. I spent hours walking through rice fields, riding scooters down unfamiliar roads, and finding my way to beaches without knowing exactly what I’d find when I arrived. Movement became the way I understood the island, not rushing, not observing from a distance, but engaging with it physically and fully.
Traveling this way made everything feel more alive. I noticed details I would’ve missed otherwise: morning rituals, quiet conversations, the rhythm of daily life. Being active didn’t just shape my days—it shaped my connection to the place.
Slowing Down Instead of Performing Travel
Bali also taught me the difference between experiencing a place and performing it. There’s a temptation when you travel, especially when you document your trips, to chase the most photogenic moments. But the moments that stayed with me weren’t always the ones I posted.
They were slower, quieter, more human. Sitting somewhere longer than planned. Saying yes to a detour. Letting a day unfold without trying to optimize it. Intentional travel, I learned, isn’t about doing more; it’s about being present for what’s already happening.
Photo captured at the Monkey Sanctuary in Bali
The People Who Made the Experience Real
More than anything, Bali reminded me that people define places. Conversations with locals, small acts of kindness, and shared moments shaped my understanding of the island far more than any landmark ever could.
Those interactions grounded my experience and reminded me why I travel in the first place: not just to see somewhere new, but to feel connected to it.
How Bali Changed the Way I Travel Now
Since Bali, I’ve been more thoughtful about how I move through the world. I look for experiences that encourage exploration, connection, and time outdoors. I prioritize travel that invites participation rather than observation, and I choose journeys that allow space for spontaneity and shared experience.
This mindset has also shaped how I write and create content on my travel blog. I focus less on perfection and more on authenticity. I focus on telling stories that reflect what travel actually feels like, not just what it looks like.
Bali didn’t just give me memories; it gave me a new way of traveling. One rooted in intention, movement, and meaningful connection—and it’s a perspective I’ll carry with me wherever I go next.
From an Aussie stranger-turned-friend in Italy to a Costa Rican surfer who now crashes on our couch, these are the people who made my trips unforgettable.
When I think back on my favorite travel experiences, it’s never just the scenery or the activities that come to mind. It’s the people.
Sure, I’ve seen beautiful beaches and stayed in stunning villas—but the moments I treasure most involve the people I never planned to meet: the stranger I shared wine with in Italy, the surf instructor who became family, the driver in Bali who still checks in via WhatsApp.
That’s the magic of bespoke travel. It isn’t built around rigid schedules or cookie-cutter itineraries. It leaves room for conversations, for real connections, and for unexpected friendships that linger long after your passport is put away.
These are just a few of the people who turned my trips into stories I’ll never stop telling.
When I think back on my favorite travel experiences, it’s never just the scenery or the activities that come to mind. It’s the people.
Sure, I’ve seen beautiful beaches and stayed in stunning villas—but the moments I treasure most involve the people I never planned to meet: the stranger I shared wine with in Italy, the surf instructor who became family, the driver in Bali who still checks in via WhatsApp.
That’s the magic of bespoke travel. It isn’t built around rigid schedules or cookie-cutter itineraries. It leaves room for conversations, for real connections, and for unexpected friendships that linger long after your passport is put away.
These are just a few of the people who turned my trips into stories I’ll never stop telling.
Ruby- a stranger in Italy turned friend
I met Ruby in Florence, on a hot July night, at a restaurant serving pasta out of a cheese wheel. She’s from Australia, bold in the best way, and had that kind of energy that made everything feel like an adventure.
What started as a quick chat about pasta turned into skipping down the cobblestone streets and getting drinks at a nightclub. While Ruby and I only spent one day together before I was off to my next destination, we still keep in touch via social media.
There’s no world in which I would’ve met her on a structured group tour. But bespoke travel gave me the space and freedom to follow a spark of connection, and I ended up with a friend for life.
Florence, Italy, 2022
Jobbie – The Surf Shop Owner Who Became Family
Our story with Jobbie started long before I was old enough to surf. He met my dad in the early 2000s, when my dad took his first trip to Costa Rica as a twenty-something just looking for waves. Jobbie ran a tiny surf shop back then—just a few boards, a hammock out front and a deep knowledge of the tides. They hit it off instantly. What started as a local helping a tourist turned into a decades-long friendship.
Picture of me waxing surfboards at Jobbie’s shop in 2012
Years later, when we returned as a family, Jobbie was still there—same surf shop, same smile, just a little more sun-worn. He helped me stand up on a board, laughed when I wiped out, and somehow always knew where the best smoothie shops were.
But Jobbie wasn’t just our surf guide. He became part of our family. He’s helped us meet locals, took us to hidden waterholes and even made the trip to the U.S. to visit us—more than once. Now, every time we go to Costa Rica, seeing Jobbie is as essential as packing sunscreen.
It’s wild to think that a spontaneous surf rental two decades ago could lead to this kind of connection. But that’s exactly the point: bespoke travel leaves room for relationships to grow, not just memories to fade.
Jobbie and me in Costa Rica, March 2023
Made – The Heart of Bali in a WhatsApp Message
Then there’s Made (pronounced Mah-day), our driver during a trip to Bali—though calling him just a driver doesn’t really do him justice. From the moment he picked us up at the airport, he had this calm, steady presence that made us feel instantly taken care of. He knew the roads like the back of his hand, but also knew where to stop for the best roadside fruit, which temples were worth lingering at, and how to keep everyone laughing, even after long days in the sun.
What stood out most about Made wasn’t just his knowledge of Bali—it was how much he genuinely wanted to share it. He taught us phrases in Bahasa, made sure we never got overcharged at restaurants and showed us all of the local spots.
We only spent a week together, but years later, he still messages us on WhatsApp. Sometimes it’s a photo update of his family, sometimes just a friendly “how are you?” It always makes me smile—and reminds me that the connections we make when we travel don’t have to end when the trip does.
With Made, we didn’t just get from point A to point B. We got a window into Balinese life, and a small but meaningful friendship that’s lasted far beyond that trip.
Conclusion
When people talk about bespoke travel, they often focus on the luxury—private excursions, curated itineraries, beautiful stays. But to me, the real luxury is human connection. It’s meeting someone who opens a door you didn’t even know was there. It’s being welcomed like a local, not just treated like a guest. It’s friendships that last longer than your plane ticket.
Ruby, Jobbie and Made weren’t part of any pre-designed itinerary. I met them because bespoke travel gave me the time, space and openness to truly engage with the people around me. These moments didn’t just enhance the trips—they became the trips.
So when I look back, I don’t just remember the places. I remember the people who shaped them.
And honestly? That’s what keeps me traveling this way.